I've got a problem. I have a very very low self esteem. People always tell me I'm attracive, I have a nice body, I have a great personality and so on...
But I don't feel it. I always go for low life guys who are not educated and dont have good jobs because I think thats all I'm worth. My friends, cousins, friends parents always tell me I can do better. What can I do to change the way I think about myself.
I see girls who are not very attractive but have great self esteem and always end up getting married to good guys. I don't see that In my future.
A childhood friend of mine recently got married to a great guy. I was looking at her the whole time on her wedding and saying to myself "I'll never be a bride like her" .
This has caused so much problems for me when it comes to dating and relationships.
Darth-Vader Guest
Posted Sat Jun 28, 2008
The cause of your problem can be several things. I suggest you take some yoga or meditation classes at least 3 or 4 times a week. Seems like you have a build up of anxiety and maybe some other issues as well. There is no pilled form of solution for your problem, the problem is inside you, and only your mentality towards life can bring the positive change you seek.
Go now, and may the DarkSide be with you my dear.
Smplegirl Guest
Posted Sat Jun 28, 2008
Im starting yoga next week. Thanks for the advice. I appreciate it.
I hope this helps me.
Darth-Vader Guest
Posted Sat Jun 28, 2008
Yoga and meditation have cured many things. Remember, most of your fears are derived from anxiety. You are a pretty girl, and you should give yourself the chance to relax and consider the possibilites in your life, rather than comparing it with the actualities of other peoples.
Meditation can help you as well, it give you the oppurtunity to analyze lifes situation with a calm and controled mind. Regardless of the situation may be, with meditation you can overcome your fears of it.
You are welcome, and you are also welcome to the DarkSide when you please.
Kiso Supreme Member
Joined: 02 Jun 2008 Posts: 312
Posted Sat Jun 28, 2008
Quote:
I see girls who are not very attractive but have great self esteem
well if you think youre prettier than these girls
then that means you dont have low self esteem=)
rather ..youre lonely and want what they have..its normal
the mind is a tricky thing
youre as pretty as you make yourself to be
doesnt matter how many compliments i get
if i never tell myself that im pretty..i wont listen to others
sooo
every morning you wake up..look in the mirror and recognize your beauty..tell yourself youre beautiful
its not being conceited..its just building confidence
trust me..it works=)
DOC Guest
Posted Sat Jun 28, 2008
*Checks mirror* Yumm I'm so sexy. *Stops*
Guest
Posted Sat Jun 28, 2008
Laughing My fudge Ass Off. at this tread
Anette Guest
Posted Mon Jun 30, 2008
I think you are feeling lonely, thats why.
CHINO Guest
Posted Mon Jun 30, 2008
I'm feeling lonely too anette. wanna be my friend?
Anette Guest
Posted Wed Jul 02, 2008
I'm not feeling lonely.
Guest
Posted Wed Jul 02, 2008
it's ok, be his friend dammit!!!
MZz*BlAcK*eYeZ New Member
Joined: 02 Jun 2008 Posts: 20
Posted Wed Jul 02, 2008
it doesnt matter how you look on the outside... you have to get comfortable with yourself in the inside first.
Guest
Posted Thu Jul 03, 2008
ok anette, i'll go kill myself now
Anette Guest
Posted Thu Jul 03, 2008
Anonymous wrote:
ok anette, i'll go kill myself now
Y?
eyOjuiCy Supreme Member
Joined: 02 Jun 2008 Posts: 1667
Posted Thu Jul 03, 2008
esha ?
(:
_________________ dont press your luck with me cuz ill prove you dat u aint so luckkyyyy(:
CHINO Guest
Posted Fri Jul 04, 2008
eshe dues kov
and i'm gonna kill myself cuz u dont wanna be my friend
eyOjuiCy Supreme Member
Joined: 02 Jun 2008 Posts: 1667
Posted Fri Jul 04, 2008
mooooooo ?
(:
relax bro <3
_________________ dont press your luck with me cuz ill prove you dat u aint so luckkyyyy(:
CHINO Guest
Posted Sat Jul 05, 2008
i am relaxed dutchess.....got my cognac and hooka and a empty house with no one to bother me what more do i neeD?
TheyCallMeBarbie559 Member
Joined: 05 Jul 2008 Posts: 53
Posted Sat Jul 05, 2008
SmpleGrl wrote:
I've got a problem. I have a very very low self esteem. People always tell me I'm attracive, I have a nice body, I have a great personality and so on...
But I don't feel it. I always go for low life guys who are not educated and dont have good jobs because I think thats all I'm worth. My friends, cousins, friends parents always tell me I can do better. What can I do to change the way I think about myself.
I see girls who are not very attractive but have great self esteem and always end up getting married to good guys. I don't see that In my future.
A childhood friend of mine recently got married to a great guy. I was looking at her the whole time on her wedding and saying to myself "I'll never be a bride like her" .
This has caused so much problems for me when it comes to dating and relationships.
If you're an attractive female and most have told you so, then believe it. At the same time you must believe it for yourself and strive to recognize yourself as a beautiful individual both inside and out. If possible, attempt to change your negative perspective of yourself by acknowledging all the great things about you and subsequently reminding yourself of all these things.
Guest
Posted Sat Jul 05, 2008
TheyCallMeBarbie559 wrote:
If you're an attractive female and most have told you so, then believe it. At the same time you must believe it for yourself and strive to recognize yourself as a beautiful individual both inside and out. If possible, attempt to change your negative perspective of yourself by acknowledging all the great things about you and subsequently reminding yourself of all these things.
