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TheOneNonly
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Mon Feb 22, 2010
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| MaratMilano wrote: | I'd be lying if I said that I was ever friends with a girl that I wasn't attracted to at one point of our interaction.
Girls can do it. Guys can't. |
Guys admit to it, girls dont.
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MaratMilano
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Mon Feb 22, 2010
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| TheOneNonly wrote: | | Guys admit to it, girls dont. |
I'd agree with you for many cases but...for the most part, girls do always have a guy friend (or a couple) that they care for and can talk to on a daily basis without actually having any sexual attraction to him.
This type of stuff goes over our heads. We can't compute it 
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Sincities818
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Mon Feb 22, 2010
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| MaratMilano wrote: | I'd agree with you for many cases but...for the most part, girls do always have a guy friend (or a couple) that they care for and can talk to on a daily basis without actually having any sexual attraction to him.
This type of stuff goes over our heads. We can't compute it |
i agree somethings guys can't compute..
girl says: i jus wanna be friends
guy computes it to: i wanna be more then friends..
*something like that...but u get the idea
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myleftfoot
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Mon Feb 22, 2010
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| MaratMilano wrote: | I'd be lying if I said that I was ever friends with a girl that I wasn't attracted to at one point of our interaction.
Girls can do it. Guys can't. |
Guys can do it too. Its just harder for them.
Tee hee hee hee....No pun intended, sickos.
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MaratMilano
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Mon Feb 22, 2010
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I actually sat here and tried to think of a girl I've been friends with that I wasn't drawn towards.
Every girl I've known for the past 10 years...If I've initiated a number exchange/hug/meeting-up/grabbing a meal...there were intentions of more than friends. Period.
Being friends is cool.
Being ONLY friends? Every guy's nightmare.
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LOVEDESPAIR
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Mon Feb 22, 2010
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| MaratMilano wrote: | It's not to say I'm not nice to girls I'm not attracted to. I treat everybody with respect but I'm not going to try to pretend that we're "friends" and exchange numbers with them in some innocent way.
If I even have the desire to hold your number in my phone, its for a reason. |
In other words u will not develop any interest of in the opposite sex unless you are attracted to them?
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LOVEDESPAIR
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Mon Feb 22, 2010
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| MaratMilano wrote: | The male has to lack sexual organs.
As well as have a below-average income.
Can't be any more platonic than that. |
or the female has to be ugly (not up to the guys standards) vise versa 
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MaratMilano
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Mon Feb 22, 2010
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| LOVEDESPAIR wrote: | | In other words u will not develop any interest of in the opposite sex unless you are attracted to them? |
Well...yeah. That's the idea of interest, no? You've gotta be attracted to a person in order to be interested in them...unless you're looking for other things? 
There's nothing I would seek of women aside from companionship and sex.
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Tyler_Durden
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Mon Feb 22, 2010
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i have been friends that i was just friends with. sure, i wanted to smash 'em but that didnt mean i didnt think of them as anything more than a friend
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LOVEDESPAIR
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Mon Feb 22, 2010
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| MaratMilano wrote: | Well...yeah. That's the idea of interest, no? You've gotta be attracted to a person in order to be interested in them...unless you're looking for other things?
There's nothing I would seek of women aside from companionship and sex. |
understandable- what i was trying to understand is- ur idea of "attraction" is physical? right?
and if so- then her intellectual concept is on second place-
judging from what I CAN feel for a man- i can EASILY not be physically attracted to a guy yet his mind can ATTRACT me- then after an attraction (a physical attraction) sparks.
for me it works vise versa-- doesnt matter which comes first.
what i understood from your response was u will not experience ANY sort of attraction unless there is PHYSICAL attraction. -- or am i wrong?
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Realest
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| MaratMilano wrote: | I actually sat here and tried to think of a girl I've been friends with that I wasn't drawn towards.
Every girl I've known for the past 10 years...If I've initiated a number exchange/hug/meeting-up/grabbing a meal...there were intentions of more than friends. Period.
Being friends is cool.
Being ONLY friends? Every guy's nightmare. |
preach brotha preach!
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myleftfoot
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Mon Feb 22, 2010
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| MaratMilano wrote: | Well...yeah. That's the idea of interest, no? You've gotta be attracted to a person in order to be interested in them...unless you're looking for other things?
There's nothing I would seek of women aside from companionship and sex. |
Hmmmm...This one is pushing it a little for me Marat my friend. You most definitely do not have to be attracted to someone to be interested in them. Physically attracted that is. There are plenty of people who are looking for other things out of other humans (male or female), or maybe not even looking.....they just sort of find it.
Men and women can make fabulous friends. As long as both know where eachother stand, and both are real about it. The girl can't be all flirty yet claim shes not into the guy. Because even if that may be true, the flirtatiousness can confuse the issue. The guy -while he may get "those kinds" of thoughts about the girl- has to have some self control if he values the friendship. And if there is an actual friendship that exsists based on shared interests, sense of humor, and other things of that nature, then it is very possible for men and women to be friends. Once you are true friends with a member of the opposite sex long enough, it just plain becomes weird (for both parties) to envision it as anything more.
But the guy will probably still picture you naked every so often, ladies. But don't worry, its the penis doing the picturing...not them. 
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myleftfoot
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| Tyler_Durden wrote: | | i have been friends that i was just friends with. sure, i wanted to smash 'em but that didnt mean i didnt think of them as anything more than a friend |
Bingo!
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TheOneNonly
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Mon Feb 22, 2010
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| MaratMilano wrote: | I actually sat here and tried to think of a girl I've been friends with that I wasn't drawn towards.
Every girl I've known for the past 10 years...If I've initiated a number exchange/hug/meeting-up/grabbing a meal...there were intentions of more than friends. Period.
Being friends is cool.
Being ONLY friends? Every guy's nightmare. |
in the last 8 years...I've had problems in this regard with the girl wanting to be more than just friends. THis is not one of those times where i'd boast to boost my confidence and all...the problem ive had was taht i was just messing around, being there every time they needed advice and such, and they ended up falling and wanting more....So i guess its all individual experiences..
However...taht being said...I've also felt that if things had gone on for longer, i might develop feelings and want to be more than ust friends.
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MaratMilano
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Mon Feb 22, 2010
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| LOVEDESPAIR wrote: | understandable- what i was trying to understand is- ur idea of "attraction" is physical? right?
and if so- then her intellectual concept is on second place-
judging from what I CAN feel for a man- i can EASILY not be physically attracted to a guy yet his mind can ATTRACT me- then after an attraction (a physical attraction) sparks.
for me it works vise versa-- doesnt matter which comes first.
what i understood from your response was u will not experience ANY sort of attraction unless there is PHYSICAL attraction. -- or am i wrong? |
Actually, by "attraction" I mean physical OR mental/emotional. Attracted means that you are drawn to them for whatever reason...whether its for her physique or for her smarts.
There are a handful of girls I've been attracted to that I hardly noticed physically at first, but after a few conversations, she'd catch my eye and the physical attraction would grow from there (as you said).
Perhaps I was putting it too simply, people seem to think that I don't think men and women can interact unless it is on a sexual level. I think we can be FRIENDS but I just personally believe that at least ONE person of the two would have some sort of attraction towards the other, whether it be some sort of small thing that they love about them or its a complete obsession.
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MaratMilano
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Mon Feb 22, 2010
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Here's a fun little experiment for you girls:
Envy, you know I love you but you worded something perfectly so I'm going to use this as the example
| Envy wrote: | | Yeah, sure it is. I have guy friends who I am not attracted to but we get along just fine. As far as I know, the feelings are mutual. |
I am willing to bet money that if, out of the blue, you told any of these guy friends that you were horny and wanted to hook up, they'd be DOWN without any follow-up questions. You'd see how "mutual" your feelings of friendship are. Not saying they're bad friends at all, but I know for a fact guys have at least a bit of sexual attraction to girls they keep a friendship with.
Us guys are good friends but at the same time, most of us would seize the opportunity for something more (even if we know it'll only be a one-time thing) if we can still hold on to the friendship as well.
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.Dev.
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Mon Feb 22, 2010
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Girls are annoying enough as it is, why befriend one? That's asking for a major migraine.
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Sm0t_P0ker
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Mon Feb 22, 2010
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| MaratMilano wrote: | Here's a fun little experiment for you girls:
Envy, you know I love you but you worded something perfectly so I'm going to use this as the example
I am willing to bet money that if, out of the blue, you told any of these guy friends that you were horny and wanted to hook up, they'd be DOWN without any follow-up questions. You'd see how "mutual" your feelings of friendship are. Not saying they're bad friends at all, but I know for a fact guys have at least a bit of sexual attraction to girls they keep a friendship with.
Us guys are good friends but at the same time, most of us would seize the opportunity for something more (even if we know it'll only be a one-time thing) if we can still hold on to the friendship as well. |
Friend or no friend, what kind of heterosexual guy wouldn't want to hook up with an attractive female if she were to "out of the blue" say she's horny and needs c0ck?
The same goes for females who befriend attractive males. When the opportunity seizes the moment, all hell can and will break loose. It's how mother nature intended it to be.
There are, however, other sides to the story. Morality can play a key role in going through with your decision. If either side of the party feels guilt for a split second, this can alter the out come. Guilt can come from either being in a relationship or having an emotional attachment to another individual. Which comes down to a simple question you can ask yourself "Do I have what it takes to think with my brain and not with my genitals?"
WELL DO YOU!?
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LOVEDESPAIR
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Mon Feb 22, 2010
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| MaratMilano wrote: | Here's a fun little experiment for you girls:
Envy, you know I love you but you worded something perfectly so I'm going to use this as the example
I am willing to bet money that if, out of the blue, you told any of these guy friends that you were horny and wanted to hook up, they'd be DOWN without any follow-up questions. You'd see how "mutual" your feelings of friendship are. Not saying they're bad friends at all, but I know for a fact guys have at least a bit of sexual attraction to girls they keep a friendship with.
Us guys are good friends but at the same time, most of us would seize the opportunity for something more (even if we know it'll only be a one-time thing) if we can still hold on to the friendship as well. |
^^^agreed !!!!!
& if i may add- frankly doesnt matter if its a small crush on a friend that gently flows away with time - or if its an on going desire of that person- a feeling is a feeling !!
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piiineapple
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Mon Feb 22, 2010
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| MaratMilano wrote: | | Girls can do it. Guys can't. |
No way.
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MaratMilano
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Mon Feb 22, 2010
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| piiineapple wrote: | | No way. |
YES! I said so dammit!
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ResidentDevil
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Wed Feb 24, 2010
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| MaratMilano wrote: | Here's a fun little experiment for you girls:
Envy, you know I love you but you worded something perfectly so I'm going to use this as the example
I am willing to bet money that if, out of the blue, you told any of these guy friends that you were horny and wanted to hook up, they'd be DOWN without any follow-up questions. You'd see how "mutual" your feelings of friendship are. Not saying they're bad friends at all, but I know for a fact guys have at least a bit of sexual attraction to girls they keep a friendship with.
Us guys are good friends but at the same time, most of us would seize the opportunity for something more (even if we know it'll only be a one-time thing) if we can still hold on to the friendship as well. |
True brotha, true dat. I have guy friends that claim to be "just friends" with girls, but when I say that she has a nice package, they go like OHWH WHOOAA YEAA DAT!!!
Same is true for me. I might see the girl as just a friend, but there's the occasional desire to bite her throat, nibble on her earlobe, or just get my hands on some o da goodies....other than that I stop myself short of any other types of things i could imagine doing to them, our of courtesy and failing moral values.
I agree with your "experiment"...I've turned down girl friends that have been half naked literally asking me for a closer introduction to Serojik...Turned them down on morality grounds. <<<this is what i think is the human factor, where you use cognition to stop your animal urges and desires from being anything more than an urge and a desire.
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randommm
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| ResidentDevil wrote: |
Same is true for me. I might see the girl as just a friend, but there's the occasional desire to bite her throat, nibble on her earlobe, or just get my hands on some o da goodies....other than that I stop myself short of any other types of things i could imagine doing to them, our of courtesy and failing moral values.
I agree with your "experiment"...I've turned down girl friends that have been half naked literally asking me for a closer introduction to Serojik...Turned them down on morality grounds. <<<this is what i think is the human factor, where you use cognition to stop your animal urges and desires from being anything more than an urge and a desire. |
whats with ur ear obsession lmao
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BH-818
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Wed Feb 24, 2010
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I think it can be done, the way I look at it
choosing someone to go out with (serious realationship) has to be more then physical attraction
and if people break up, I see that as being incapable, so I dont see why they still can't be friends, when some people break up they say "oh I hate" "I regret knowing you"
you "never regret anything that made you once smile"
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ResidentDevil
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Wed Feb 24, 2010
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| randommm wrote: | | whats with ur ear obsession lmao |
Give it another few years Syuz, and you'll know what the deal is  
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Road,The
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Wed Feb 24, 2010
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I get along with men better than women. They got the qualities that make it easy to maintain friends with them... and of course their general laid back nature. They don't judge you as easily as girls do. They aren't bitchy. They are less competitive. We all know there is way too much girl-on-girl drama right now.
I've been close friends with my childhood friend ever since I can remember. Heto he started acting really strange around me. 1 amis heto, asec ari amusnanank
Male-female friendship can be tricky. Not saying they can't be friends, but from my experience, no. All my guy friends liked me more than just a friend, and I know it. Sad reality
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VIXON86
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Wed Feb 24, 2010
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of course its possible, i have 3-4 guy friends that i strickly call friends, they are nice and cool to hangout w/ so ya, its very possible it depends on the two people.
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Kid.A
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Sat Feb 27, 2010
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You're oblivious if you don't think that your male friends are trying to get with you, or at the VERY LEAST, would take advantage of the opportunity if it came their way. Don't lie to yourselves, ladies.
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ResidentDevil
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| Kid.A wrote: | | You're oblivious if you don't think that your male friends are trying to get with you, or at the VERY LEAST, would take advantage of the opportunity if it came their way. Don't lie to yourselves, ladies. |
There goes your +1 brotha
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LOVEDESPAIR
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Sat Feb 27, 2010
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| Sm0t_P0ker wrote: | Friend or no friend, what kind of heterosexual guy wouldn't want to hook up with an attractive female if she were to "out of the blue" say she's horny and needs c0ck?
The same goes for females who befriend attractive males. When the opportunity seizes the moment, all hell can and will break loose. It's how mother nature intended it to be.
There are, however, other sides to the story. Morality can play a key role in going through with your decision. If either side of the party feels guilt for a split second, this can alter the out come. Guilt can come from either being in a relationship or having an emotional attachment to another individual. Which comes down to a simple question you can ask yourself "Do I have what it takes to think with my brain and not with my genitals?"
WELL DO YOU!? |
Oh shush!! and YES I MOST CERTAINLY DO !!! :D
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